When parents are INCONGRUENT, children learn:To doubt their version of reality.To not trust themselves and even things they see and hear.That people are not honest or safe.When parents are CONGRUENT, children learn:To trust themselves.To trust other people.How to own their …
Tag: Conscious Parenting
![“When post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) first made it into the diagnostic manuals, we only focused on dramatic incidents like rapes, assaults, or accidents to explain the origins of the emotional breakdowns in our patients. Gradually, we came to understand that the most severe dysregulation occurred in people who, as children, lacked a consistent caregiver” (Van Der Kolk, in Porges, 2011: xi-xii) This is COMPLEX TRAUMA.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/26_10_2021_CPTSD-and-Dysregulation-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
PTSD and Dysregulation
If you have been following me for a while, then you know I talk about this a LOT. Gone are the days when we can think it’s okay for children to be raised in homes where there is violence, abuse, …
![The Lost Art of Eating and Connecting Deciding who will cook, set the table and do the dishes at the end – dividing up the tasks, so they are spread equitably through the family. Taking time to enjoy the cooking process – playing music, cooking as a couple or a family. No screens at the table – to facilitate connection and communication Taking time to ask each other about your day Going around the table and sharing something you enjoyed from the day, something you learned and something that was a problem. This can be a time to share important things to us or have a giggle as a family. When done regularly, eating and connecting as a family daily can be the glue that keeps the family connected.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/1-4-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
The Lost Art of Eating and Connecting
I grew up eating my dinner with a tray on my lap in front of the TV watching Neighbours (an Ozzie TV show that we LOVED in the UK with Kylie Minogue ????). We were together as a family, but …
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You don’t need to be in crisis to see a therapist
It is a myth that you need to be in crisis to see a therapist. You might decide to work with a therapist when: You see yourself repeating old patterns You get triggered by your family You want to be …
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Signs Therapy Could be Useful
It is time to end the stigma of mental health and get support when you need it. You deserve to be supported wherever you are at. As humans we are social creatures. We were never meant to have it all …
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Central To EQ Are The Abilities To…
The ability to perceive emotions is something we learn in childhood. When my son was about 9, he went through a phase of about two months where he would regularly ask me if I was feeling angry. He would say: …
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Conscious Parenting
As a therapist and healer raising children I am often asked for hints and tips on raising children. Like everyone else, I am learning as I go, and do not profess to be the perfect parent (if such a thing …