Working with a therapist and going through a process of self-exploration and change is one of the most empowering experiences we can have. Most people have never been held in a safe, supporting, non-bias space where they can be truly heard and validated.
Self-help books are wonderful, but they are no substitute for doing the deep interpersonal work from working with a therapist one-on-one.
For me, one of the most potent times to visit a therapist is when I am aware of repeating cycles in my life. My therapist helps me clarify what impulses me to behave in certain ways and where those impulses have come from (so I can understand it and have compassion for myself). I have the time and space to be with myself as I explore those intense feelings and thoughts whilst being held by my therapist.
Experiencing deep emotions and realisations with a therapist can be profoundly healing in that we experience a corrective experience from what we may have repeatedly experienced as a child.
For example, in a session, I start to close down as I become flooded with emotion. Maybe in the past, that would make my mother angry, and she would shout until I began to communicate again. But in this situation, I am held in gentle, supportive, allowing energy, which makes space for my overwhelm. I don’t have to do or be anything for anyone else, I can experience my authentic self.
This is a beautiful, corrective experience to have in therapy. It teaches me how to allow myself the space and time I need when I feel flooded. Yes, it is deep work…it can be painful, but boy is it worth it! The most life-changing work…that’s why I’m in this space
May you get the support you need on your healing journey