How Close Can I Safely Get?
We all have a subconscious distance in a relationship that we are comfortable with. If we are further away than that distance, we won’t…
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The Trauma-Informed Perspective
Being ‘trauma informed’ is essentially the skill of pausing before making a judgement and thinking why this behaviour might be happening, given someone’s personal…
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How to End The Cycle of Repeating Arguments
Have you found yourself in a relationship arguing about the same thing over and over with no resolution? If your answer is yes, you…
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How to Recognise a SECURE PERSON if you Have Grown Up in Chaos
This video is in response to a lot of questions I get about recognising securely attached people. First, it IS challenging to recognise secure…
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When you block your feelings as a child, to keep yourself safe, you might grow up not knowing who you are
In some environments, children have to block their feelings. Imagine being terrorised in your home, being with someone, a mother, father, sibling, who enjoys…
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Attachment Wounds CAN Come From Adult Relationships
Attachment wounds don’t only come from your childhood, they can also be formed in adulthood. Remember that attachment wounds are relational wounds. This means…
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Male and Female Archetypes
What do you think about this idea of your mother as being the first archetypal woman and your father, the first archetypal man in…
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Are You Stuck in Pattern Repeat?
When we are growing up, we get used to the relational distance between us and our caregivers. We chose a distance that feels safe….
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Core Wounds
Most of us have what I think of as a ‘core wound’. It might be a belief that I’m never going to be good…
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3 Steps For Self-Exploration When Anxious
From my years of working on myself and with my clients, I have come to understand feelings as messengers. I often see them as…
