Cycle breakers will often feel out of place in their family. That’s tough because it leaves you feeling isolated. But you just can’t tow the family line anymore. You can’t listen to any more suggestions that there is something wrong …
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![How to Support Yourself as a 'Cycle Breaker.' BLUE Accept that you are different from your family of origin, and that's okay Remember that you are doing the healing work for your children and their children Find a tribe outside of your family of origin Find supportive people, therapists, teachers, etc Educate yourself in new ways of being and communicating Develop clear boundaries with your family Don't expect anyone else to change Develop empathy for yourself and your family Keep a journal and remind yourself to align with YOUR values Permit yourself to take a break from the family or distance if necessary Trust yourself](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/1-4-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Support Yourself as a ‘Cycle Breaker’
A cycle breaker in a family is someone who consciously chooses to develop different ways of communicating, interacting, living and thinking to their family of origin. This can start at a very young age, knowing early that you just think …
![How to Shift a Criticism into a Complaint for More Effective Communication Criticism “You are so lazy and disrespectful; you leave all your dirty clothes all over the place.” Complaint “I feel sad when you leave your dirty clothes on the floor. I need you to put them in the basket.” Criticism "You are always spending too much money; you are completely unreliable". Complaint "I feel hurt and scared when you overspend. I need you to stick to the budget we agreed."](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/23_02_2021_How-to-Shift-a-Criticism-into-a-Complaint-for-More-Effective-Communication-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Shift a Criticism into a Complaint for More Effective Communication
If you grew up with a lot of criticism around you, as an adult it is likely that you have a loud critical voice in your head. Usually that critical voice is directed inwards, but in intimate relationships, many people …
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Why are Family Secrets Toxic?
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Boundaries with Family Can Sound Like
Your boundaries are for YOU, they are not to change the other person. They are to keep you and your energy safe. Boundaries are healthy. Without boundaries our energy gets drained, we become resentful and angry and we are susceptible …
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What Kind of Relationship Struggles Are You Facing During the Pandemic
Here is a list of everything you shared with me in the last 24 hours when I asked, ‘what kind of relationship struggles are you facing during the pandemic?’ A few of them showed up again and again; missing physical …
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Affirmations to Help You Heal After a Breakup
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult and painful times. There can be such an overwhelming feeling of disappointment, going over moments and scenes in your head, wondering if you could / should have been different. …
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Have You Ever Found Yourself In A Toxic Triad?
I know I have. Triangles are a natural part of life. According to family therapist Murray Bowen, they will form naturally when the tension in any dyad becomes too much to sustain (1972). Some triangles are healthy and helpful, for …