Can you talk things through without one of you storming out? Can you communicate without shouting? Do you feel safe in the conflict? If not, do you feel unsafe physically? Why? Are you being threatened? Do they go to hit …
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The 5 Stages of a relationship
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
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Questions to Ask During the ‘Difference’ Relationship Phase
This is the phase where we step back from the intense merging of the honeymoon phase, we take off the rose-tinted glasses and ask ourselves if we can live with the reality of the other person. It is easy to …
![When We Argue I Wonder if This is The Right Relationship For Me When two people come together, so do two completely different worlds. It is NORMAL for some arguments and differences to be resolved as you get closer and enter into more intimacy. This is part of the trust-building process. Can we be different and still stay connected and be curious about each other’s world? Can we disagree, and both still feel safe, physically, mentally and emotionally. You really get to know someone when you argue.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/1-10-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
When We Argue I Wonder if This is The Right Relationship For Me
When the Princess meets the Prince in the Disney movies, it is happily ever after. We don’t see the scenes a year on when they argue about when to have a child, where to live, and how much contact there …
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No Two children Have The Same Childhood
Is there space for them to BOTH be right? When one sibling remembers neglect, they remember the details and the house’s emotional temperature; that is their experience. That is what they remember. It is true for them.When the other sibling …
![Tips for the ‘Struggle’ Stage of a Relationship Make time to talk about what is going on Listen as much as you want to be heard Resist ignoring recurring problems Seek ways to deal with difficult issues together Make time to connect with each other and have fun Offset the negativity by focusing on ONE thing you love about your partner Avoid being passive-aggressive or threatening with ultimatums](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/19_02_2021_Tips-for-the-‘Struggle-Stage-of-a-Relationship-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Tips for the ‘Struggle’ Stage of a Relationship
It is normal to have conflict and struggle in a relationship. When you begin a relationship, you usually spend a while in the honeymoon phase and lose part of yourselves as you enter the intoxicating phase of merging. As your …
![Questions for You During the ‘Differences’ Stage of Relationship How much of what we have been doing together in the honeymoon phase are things that my partner likes? What are the things that I enjoy and am I making time for them? Are our care values similar? They have different spiritual beliefs to me; can we co-exist and live with these differing beliefs? They are a spender, and I’m a saver. Will we be able to negotiate our financial life together? If you have differing dreams, are there similar parts? Or is this a deal-breaker? Do you have similar sex drives? If not, how will you navigate this? If one wants children and the other doesn’t, is this a relationship where both will be fulfilled? Do the areas of alignment vastly outweigh the areas of difference?](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/1-2-1-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Questions for You During the ‘Differences’ Stage of Relationship
This is the phase where we step back from the intense merging of the honeymoon phase, we take off the rose-tinted glasses and ask ourselves if we can live with the reality of the other person. It is easy to …
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The Five Stages of Relationship
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict. …