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Tag: Conflict resolution
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My Partner Always Wants To Pause During Difficult Conversations, And It Is Difficult To Move Forward
The curiosity here is around reactivity, and when fight, flight or freeze might take over for either of you in the relationship. This is a conversation that needs to happen when you are NOT in the middle of an argument. …
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How to Take a Break During an Argument
Storming out during an argument is not a great way to take a break. Maybe you return to the argument, but more often than not there is still tension in the air, maybe you become passive-aggressive with one another and …
![When to take a break during a difficult conversation: If you find you are flooded If you find you are becoming reactive If you notice something is going on for you You find yourself repeating yourself You have shut down You find yourself interrupting them to defend yourself You find yourself being disrespectful and saying things you will later regret You have stopped deeply listening to them You have become violent, physically or with your words](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/1-13-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
When To Take A Break During A Difficult Conversation:
According to the Gottman’s, 69% of relationship arguments are unsolvable, so it no surprise that they can cause so much frustration. Have you ever been in a situation where you are both feeling unheard, misunderstood and you are both starting …
3 Tips to Change How You argue
This video has some AMAZING tips to revolutionise the way you have conflict in your relationship
![Can Conflict Become A Way For a Couple To Connect? What would it be like if: You started to use conflict as a way to connect more deeply? Instead of using the disagreement to move further apart, you chose to get curious? You saw the conflict as an opportunity to get to know one another more deeply? You took the time to really hear the other person’s view? You allowed yourself to feel empathy for them without fear of abandoning yourself? You allowed your heart to soften as you hear their frustration or pain You allowed the conflict to be an avenue through which you can know your partner more intimately? When in conflict, you could get curious about yourself and your partner? You could remember that we all have wounds; maybe you are feeling yours now and seeing theirs? Through conflict, you could hold space for one another’s wounds and imperfections without withdrawing?](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/1-6-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Can Conflict Become A Way For a Couple To Connect?
Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …
![How Having to Be Right Damages your Relationship and What to Do About it. Always having to be right comes from perfectionism – If you are not correct, you are not perfect One person feels wrong all the time; this can negatively affect self-esteem There is an imbalance in the relationship, with the ‘always right’ person having more power and perhaps being a bully When one person always has to be wrong, they may stop expressing their genuine opinion and withdraw from the relationship](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/1-5-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How Having to Be Right Damages your Relationship and What to Do About it.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has to be right all the time? It can be so frustrating. Even when there is evidence that they are wrong, they won’t openly say, “oh, I was wrong”, they …
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Calming Phrases To Use During Conflict
Every relationship, at some point, is going to have conflict. How well we deal with the dispute and make repairs can significantly influence the relationship and its longevity.When we are in conflict it is only natural that we will make …
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5 Tips for the 5 Stages of a Relationship
One common myth about great relationships is that there are no arguments or disagreements. The Gottman’s (fantastic relationship experts who have done lots of research in this area, disagree). It is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship; the issue …