When I first met my inner child doing an inner child meditation similar to the one on my website, she was about 16, sitting on a wall, wearing knee length leather boots, smoking a cigarette with a cigarette holder. She …
The Art of Re-Parenting – Part 3
Sometimes it can feel like it is impossible to stop the negative thinking. I know. I have been there. When nothing, like nothing works. For me, it happens mostly when I am stressed or anxious about a particular topic and …
The Art of Re-Parenting – Part 2
Part of the re-parenting process is the process of shifting our self-talk. I like to imagine that every time I think something in my head, I am talking to myself and my inner child. I have a rule: If I …
Lucia Quote
Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is, they see something new and they want to …
The Art of Re-Parenting
How do you start to heal the mother and father wound? One of the pieces of the puzzle for me was doing transactional analysis work. More commonly known as inner child work. I have been doing this work with myself …
Father Healing
Three years ago, my father died at 91 years old. I had the opportunity to be with him for a while about 4 weeks before he passed. As he laid in his bed getting weaker and weaker, and having a …
Fathers and Sons
After reading the last two posts lots of people have asked “What about the men?” How do men respond to the father wound? Of course, everyone’s response to any disconnection is different, so the core thing to remember that there …
How Does the Father Wound Show Up?
The father wound is a wound that is passed down family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds, which created feelings of unworthiness within. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All …
The Unavailable Father
So much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and attachment with the mother. But what about our fathers? As children we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological …
Steve Biddulph Quote
When I read this, I feel for my father. My dad was 52 when I was born. He was older than my grandparents. He fought in WWII; my grandparents were too young. He came from a completely different era to …