If you were a parentified child, you might still carry the weight of responsibility that was never yours to hold. You may find it hard to rest.Hard to ask for help.Hard to believe you’re worthy just as you are, without …
Category: Family
Why a Child Takes on the Role of a Parent
Some children grow up in homes where there isn’t enough care to go around. So they step in. They become the organiser, the emotional support, the caretaker. Not because they should. But because the system needs someone to hold it …
Parentification and IFS: Healing the Parts That Had to Grow Up Too Fast
When you’ve been parentified, you grow up fast. Your needs get buried. Your inner child gets quiet. And protector parts take over — keeping everything together, at a cost. In IFS, we see these protector parts clearly: They developed for …
When We Have Emotionally Immature Parents
When we’re raised by emotionally immature parents, we often grow up in one of two ways: We either struggle to regulate our emotions — reacting, withdrawing, or feeling overwhelmed… Or we become parentified early — the “responsible one,” always managing …
Finding Your Logical Family: How Chosen Family Can Help You Heal
When your biological family caused harm instead of safety, it can take years to untangle the pain. Healing often begins when we find our logical family — the people who see us, love us, and hold us with the care …
Family Secrets: How Carrying a Secret That Wasn’t Yours Can Shape Your Childhood
Did you grow up carrying a secret that wasn’t yours? When a child is asked to hold an adult’s secret — like an affair or a family betrayal — it can fracture their sense of safety, belonging, and play. In …
Are You a Cycle Breaker?
You feel it ends with you. Have you ever looked at your family… and felt the quiet knowing: “It ends with me.” You feel things deeply. You ask the hard questions. You see the patterns others couldn’t see — and …
Easter Holidays
The sun is still out. We took a week off last week to take the kids up the coast, 5 hours north of Sydney. We stopped to visit family on the way up and had some boating fun on Easter …
Tools for Grounding
Having a go-to grounding list can be incredibly helpful when we’re feeling overwhelmed—especially if we have a trauma history. When we’re triggered, our sympathetic nervous system kicks in—hello, fight-or-flight. In those moments, we need simple, accessible ways to soothe ourselves …
