Anxiously attached people might find it difficult to see their beauty and worth. Expressing gratitude can help them to see it too. Being grateful for the things they DO (conditional) e.g. “Wow, you are such a skilled artist” and being grateful for things they ARE (unconditional) e.g. “I just love to see you when I get home”. When we express gratitude for our relationship and specific elements of our relationship, it often creates a feeling of safety. For example: “I love being in a relationship with you, you are such a warm and caring person” or “I’m so lucky to have you in my life”.