I knew I was growing when I was okay with not being okay Not being okay involves deep, often painful feelings. It can cause us to re-assess who we think we are. If we hold a vision of ourselves as a generally happy and positive person, and then we go through a period of deep grief, we go through a period of having to integrate that experience into our new sense of self. Who am I if I burst into tears at the drop of a hat? Who am I if I am still feeling resentful after being betrayed? We are called to expand our sense of self. I am still me, and I have found a new piece of me that right now is not okay. I am that too. We can open our heart to ourselves and say “that too”.