Humans are wired for connection - we’re social creatures. But trauma wires us to protect, it tells us the world isn’t safe. So as we reach out for connection, there is often part of us that is subconsciously waiting to pull back to protect. Do you find in relationships that you have this deep yearning to connect, which is part of our biology, and also this impulse to withdraw and protect? Trauma wries us for protection, it teaches us that the world is not a safe place, so as we reach out to connect, there is often part of us that is subconsciously waiting to pull back to protect.