Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Reassurance Here are 4 tips Reassurance can take the form of words. For example: “I have been looking forward to seeing you all day”, “I love seeing you laugh” - let those words sink in. They feel reassuring if you are in a relationship. Planning for the future. Thinking of holidays, where you might like to live or how many children you might like, depending on the stage of your relationship. Touch can be reassuring. Holding hands, kissing, a gentle arm around the waist when you are at a party together. Gifts can be reassuring. It might be a picture you drew, a romantic card or their favourite chocolate. Gifts show that you have been thinking about them and can be reassuring.